6 Reasons Why I Love Deployments

If given the choice between going through my husband being deployed or not deployed, I would hands down choose that he wouldn’t get deployed. I’ve been through my fair share of deployments though, and there are silver linings to my husband being gone that I found myself looking forward to as the deployment day drew closer.

1. The time alone

I used to HATE being alone! Now I look forward to the personal progress that I can make from spending time alone getting to know myself. With no one else to care for (before I had kids), I was able to really focus on me and reevaluate the person that I want to be, and the goals that I wanted to accomplish. I learned how to be courageous as well. I no longer need to have a “buddy” for the movies or restaurants. If there’s a movie that I want to see, or a new restaurant that I’d like to try, then I can now take myself out on a date to those places without feeling weird.

2. Distance Makes the Heart Grow Fonder

I’m not the biggest fan of the saying “Distance makes the heart grow fonder” because distance is painful. My heart ached every time my husband was away, but having him gone really put things in perspective. I was no longer focusing on his negative aspects, such as leaving his socks on the floor and never turning lights off as he left the room. No one is perfect and I learned that having his socks on the floor would be worth it to have him home. The first time I saw his socks on the floor after he came back from a deployment I smiled… because it meant he was home. Only having him gone could have put the small things like that in perspective for me.

3. The letters

This one kind of goes in line with number 2. The longer my husband was gone the sweeter he would be. We were able to effectively communicate about things that we normally would have fought over because now we missed each other. Instead of waking up to him rushing to get out the door to work, I would wake up to emails full of “I love you” and “Good morning beautiful” phrases.  I’ve printed off the emails that we’ve sent to each other over the years and they are my most loved possessions.

4. The Creativity

There’s something about being alone for months that makes me creative. I learned how to create board games and put together 2000+ piece puzzles. I learned the difference between polyurethane and polycrylic. As I checked off each project goal I was able to learn and grow in ways that I wouldn’t have if I had someone helping me.

5. No need for Compromise

We no longer have a TV, and soon you’ll be able to read a post on it here, but when we did we constantly fought over what we should watch. When my husband was deployed I could watch what I wanted, for however long I wanted. I didn’t have to portion out dinner either. I just ate the amount that I wanted and saved the rest for later. I always made sure to make the food that I love, but my husband isn’t a fan of, when he was gone.

6. The care packages

Let’s face it, care packages are FUN to make!  The different color scheme and themes had me searching Pinterest for hours. It not only gave me something to do as I scoured the commissary for anything and everything blue for an “I’m blue without you” package, but it brought both my husband and I immense joy every time he received a package.

 

 

You’ll be back in your spouse’s arms before you know it, but for now take the time to enjoy the growth that you can achieve while they are away.

 

 

 

What are some of the things that you look forward to after your significant other leaves for deployment?

 

 

One thought on “6 Reasons Why I Love Deployments

  1. Rebecca Swenor

    July 24, 2017 at 2:31pm

    This is a great post for those whose spouse or partner is on deployment. It can be so difficult when you have someone you love away on deployment but this post is indeed a great way to look at this time too. Thanks for sharing the information.

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  2. Nicole Caudle

    July 24, 2017 at 1:01pm

    This is a great positive way to look at things. I’m sure dealing with a deployment is hard enough, you have to see the positive to make it through. I’m going to share this with a few people.

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  3. Katja

    July 24, 2017 at 12:20pm

    I envy your “silver lining” thinking – I would just be super bummed and worried and stressed all the time and I doubt I could find anything good about those times.
    Katja xxx
    http://www.katnapped.com

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  4. ohmummymia

    July 23, 2017 at 8:34pm

    I’m not sure if I would be able to live like that. Obviously, you have hear a good reasons but for me could work not for whole relationships maybe once or twice

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  5. fAshion mommy

    July 23, 2017 at 2:17pm

    I think it is great that you have found the positive in something that is a trying, testing time.

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  6. Kaitlynn

    July 22, 2017 at 3:08pm

    I love that you have a positive outlook. We haven’t (luckily) gone through a deployment yet, but I feel as if I’ll be ready for one should the time ever come. I know that I’ll definitely be going on creative project sprees and probably going out a lot more, which are both good things. When we were doing long distance, my husband really wanted to hear of how I kept busy achieving goals instead of how hard things were for us. It’s good to hear that you are such a supportive and strong wife, I’m sure your husband really appreciates it.

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  7. Adrianne Betz

    July 21, 2017 at 8:29pm

    I am glad you are able to cope with deployment so well. A lot of people really struggle with it. They could learn something here.

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  8. David Elliott

    July 21, 2017 at 7:34pm

    That’s so cool that you have been able to develop a positive attitude about the whole situation. I imagine that it would be awful having your spouse leave under those circumstances. But you are right, we focus on the positive and not the negative when our significant other is away.

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  9. Jay

    July 21, 2017 at 4:26pm

    Its great that you look for the silver linings! I am sure being a soldier’s wife is hard on both of you <3

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  10. Helene D'Souza

    July 21, 2017 at 12:25pm

    I think a balance is good, too long away from the other can’t be good either but if you know when you will see the other one again and if it’s not too long, then it’s ok. I am sorry to hear that your husband is in the army.

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      Shannon

      July 21, 2017 at 12:52pm

      I agree, balance is great! My husband was in the Navy 🙂

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  11. Gideon

    July 21, 2017 at 11:49am

    I must say that being alone has helped boost your mental and emotional strength because many women can’t even bear the thought of being alone left alone a “deployment”

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  12. Muna Kenny

    July 21, 2017 at 10:35am

    I miss my husband when he travels and I can relate to your points. I love to have a (me time) every now and then but miss his company.

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  13. Gloria

    July 21, 2017 at 9:29am

    I can’t imagine being with a soldier. I would be worried – constantly. It would drive me absolutely insane. Always admired people who could and seeing your perspective on it is quite interesting. I wouldn’t be happy about watching TV alone or being alone in the house in general. I love company way too much. It’s great though that we’re all so different. How dull would the world be if everyone was the same? =)

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  14. corinne & kirsty

    July 21, 2017 at 9:16am

    I think distance gives you more time for yourself and to be creative. Writing a correspondence might be so romantic too

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  15. Ankita

    July 21, 2017 at 8:54am

    Sometimes I like spending time alone..without getting unaffected from other things…

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  16. Chloe

    July 21, 2017 at 4:06am

    When I used to work away I know my partner enjoyed having the time alone! He was able to play video games, watch his own movies etc without having to worry about whether he was spending time with me. Alone time can actually be really healthy for a relationship I think.

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  17. Ashley

    July 21, 2017 at 12:40am

    We are not a military family but I have friends who are. I know deployment can be tough I’m glad your family has found a groove.

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  18. Crystal Carder

    July 21, 2017 at 12:27am

    Time alone is important in any relationship. I’ve never had to deal with my husband being gone, but I can totally see how these could be good for your relationship.

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  19. Amber Myers

    July 20, 2017 at 11:47pm

    Yup, I’m the same way. I LOVE my alone time, so I never minded when my husband had to deploy. Plus the letters were fun. Oh, and I got the bed to myself, which was another bonus.

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  20. Jessica@HappilyHughes

    July 20, 2017 at 6:25pm

    This is such a great perspective to have in a difficult situation and the reasons you have shared are so true! While it is so hard to be separated from the ones we love, especially for extended periods, it is a chance to grow and learn more about ourselves. It also gives us the opportunity to truly appreciate how lucky we are to have that person in our life!

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  21. Heather Johnson

    July 20, 2017 at 4:23pm

    The time alone would be nice. Plus you can grow more fond of your husband while he is away, right?

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  22. Sarah-Louise Bailey

    July 20, 2017 at 4:02pm

    Great Tips! I think you and I are in the same situation. My fiance works out of town most of the time and Many nights he doesn’t call so I get bored. I have started taking things differently and keep myself busy with other stuff like social media etc

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  23. GiGi Eats

    July 12, 2017 at 1:04am

    I totally agree with all of these points. I am not a soldier’s wife – but when my husband travels or when I – I always miss him instantly – but it’s good to have time apart for sure!

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